Not for me, Sillies.
(stop agreeing with that maybe!!!!!!!!!)
Since I know several therapists of different varieties read Trevy’s blog, I thought I’d put out a call for HELP!
It’s nothing major. I just need you to help me try and understand something. Because I crave understanding him. Things I don’t understand keep me up at night wondering. Google-ing. I’ve already asked 2 outta 3 of his out-patient (oh…did I mention that I finally set up those OT & PT therapies? Maybe I am Super Mom?! ;) therapists. Both nodded like it must mean something. And shrugged that they couldn’t imagine what.
But I KNOW there must be a what and a why somewhere out there!
I don’t remember him doing this prior to surgery. As much anyway. But then I don’t really remember much before surgery. However, post surgery Trevy will always always have something repetitive he does with his hands. To me…and let me just go ahead and say he is not on the autism spectrum at this time…but to me the easiest way to describe it is that it resembles a stim? Only recently have I noticed that when one goes away, it’s because another has replaced it.
For the longest time he would do these claw hand moves. The whole live long day. Moving his fingers (particularly the right, which is odd being his non-dominant) like he was doing a shadow puppet show. Together Apart Together Apart. Rapidly. Little lobster claws. I know I have videos of it somewhere…I just don’t really have the time to find one. But it was constant and persistent.
Then it went away (for awhile) and was replaced by popping the joints in his fingers (again Righty). You know how double jointed people do? Makes my skin crawl! And he’d do it all day long. All day long with the popping his finger joints.
Overnight that went away and was replaced by head smacking. Whack. Whack. Whack. All day long. This is where I admit I was heart-broken. The other two were kinda easy to miss. The public at large wouldn’t notice. The head whacking…not so much. And it just looks…well…weird? I hate using that word. But I believe in keeping it real. And it was weird. The other two no one seemed to mind. The head whacking…every single therapist who works with him gave me advice on how to eliminate it.
And the other day I notice he’s not whacking his head any more. Not one bit. And that’s good.
Now he’s snapping. Just his right fingers. Snapping. All day long! Snap Snap Snap Snap Snap. If he weren’t so cute it’d be driving me wonky!
And even still it is. Because I want to understand why he’s doing these repetitive hand things? And why the heck is it his right hand? What is going on? Does it help him process information? Is it comforting? Am I over-analyzing? Does each snap or whack or claw mean information is shifting from left to right? Have you worked with other children who’ve done similar things? Other moms and dads…are you seeing this too???