a different kind of muscle — guardianship process

To all the parents who have walked through the guardianship process — my heart is with you.

Our paperwork is prepped and ready to submit this week. He turns 18 on April 3rd.
I've been thinking about this for a year now, but only just mustered the energy to move forward — the loom of his birthday my propellant. Overwhelm has paralyzing effect. I'm struggling to recall the last time I didn't feel overwhelmed. It struck me how all these years of walking through disability beside Trevor should have made me stronger and yet...

I suppose it's a different kind of muscle being developed.

Comments

MamaSkates said…

Sending love! You've got this, mama!

July 17, 2025 at 6:41 AM

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